So, I for one am completely and totally against a witch-hunt, speculating “who’s next”, etc. And I’m not about to accuse Jason Munday of any illegal behavior or misconduct in relationships, because I have no evidence or inklings of such.
However, I AM going to fucking accuse him of responding to a young woman’s legitimate qualms and concerns over the rape culture with belittlement and anger.
Yeah, go back up and read that again. Jason Munday just said that if you don’t want to live in the rape culture then too fucking bad. His awful, sarcastic solution to escape abuse and rape? Just remove yourself from all men and thus, culture at large, until placed in an arranged marriage.
I’m not saying Jason’s statements here are on par with the level of awfulness that Luke and Alex’s actions lie on. But what he said is entirely reprehensible, and should not be forgotten.
I went off on Twitter today, specifically at Jason Munday, after seeing this.
Because I’m the father of a 13 yr old girl. I’m the husband of a woman who’s been sexually harassed in her lifetime, like pretty much 99.9% of women out there, sadly. Because I’m the father of an 8 yr old son, and very soon I’m going to need to make sure he’s very educated about how to respect women.
I was actually surprised that he responded to me, given that I’m a 38 yr old male, not a teenaged girl. I figured he only responded in a condescending manner to those he thought he was better than. I won’t get into what was said, because it’s all public, and frankly, I don’t know if he could’ve possibly come out looking worse.
Just a few days ago, I defended him on Twitter for his silence over the accusations against Alex and Luke. Seeing his tweets like those above, which weren’t the only ones in his timeline that were utterly disgusting and uncalled for, were what set me off. If I publicly defended him, I was sure as hell going to publicly call him out for his bullshit.
I don’t know if he thinks this is a laugh, or a game. Newsflash - IT’S NOT. This is REAL. This is life. This is about rape culture in society, and the sickening trend of men feeling like they have more power over women (as seen from his tweets above) and the demeaning of women who DARE question and show valid concern over things like this.
I had to see bruises on girls in high school, who could somehow never remember how they got there. I dated a girl who showed up to school one day with a giant scratch on her cheek because a guy smacked her. I watched a girl in tears try to get away from her known abusive boyfriend while teachers simply stood by and watched him chase her down.
I’m terrified that my daughter might one day be in one of those situations.
I’m disgusted that women who felt safe in the wizard rock community had to put up with such horrible, sickening behavior, and are now dealing with the mental and emotional scars as a result. I’m sad that women are now justifiably wary of men who they thought were good guys.
I’m furious that some men still think this is some sort of a joke.
Most of all, I’m sad that what I thought was a caring community is filled with people who either don’t care or don’t want to care.
EDIT: the personal examples I used were mostly of physical abuse; I am not saying that there was any physical abuse in recent events nor am I saying that anyone condones physical abuse. What I AM saying is that abuse is abuse, be it physical, emotional, mental, etc. And all of it is disgusting, uncalled for, and reprehensible.
ALSO - I still do not feel it is right or OK to “call out” people for remaining silent these past few weeks. Many of them are not only conflicted over what they very most likely feel are friendships, many may also be looking at the BS like above and not wanting to get stuck in it as well. It’s one thing to remain silent, it’s another thing to do…. whatever it is that Jason is doing above.
EDIT #2: looks like all of Jason’s tweets have been deleted. Too bad they’re screencapped here on Tumblr (and I see that another user screencapped some of my exchanges with him as well). He apologized to the young lady you see in the above pic, but I highly doubt he’ll apologize for calling me a bad parent. That’s OK. My son gave me a huge hug when I put him to bed tonight, and to be quite blunt, he and his sister’s opinions are all that matters to me.